When life cooperates…errr…mostly

Events. Relationships. Jobs. Money.

It’s so nice when all of that works out, but does it ever all work out at once? Not hardly. Not in my life at least, but 3 out of 4 ain’t bad, eh?

In order to be happy with my life, I’ve learned to be thankful. That’s insanely hard to do honestly. So I try. I try to think of what all I have in my life that’s good. As I list the things, it becomes apparent that I have way more to be happy about than I originally thought.

So on the days where I’m just depressed because my life and possessions aren’t the same as more wealthier people around me, I just stop and remind myself that there’s tons of people who are less fortunate than me.

Tons. In this country. In other countries. TONS. It’s like complaining about the internet on my iPhone not being fast enough. There’s millions of people around the world who don’t even have food or shelter let alone cell phones. That’s just a small example of course, but you get the jest of it.

My boyfriend has helped me realize there’s a lot to be thankful about. His life hasn’t been nearly as complicated and crazy as mine in the past, so he’s just naturally (9 times out of 10) a more cheerful person. Well, except when something doesn’t go his way exactly then he tends to understand why I’m pissy, but still. He reminds me of what I DO have when I’m down.

It’s wonderful and pretty much mandatory to surround yourself with positive people in order to live a healthier life. Being negative is so bad for you. I know, obviously, one cannot be happy and cheerful 24/7 but at least we can try.

My new job is putting me to the test. I work at a high end spa here and deal with very wealthy people of all kinds and even celebrities sometimes (whom I can’t mention so don’t even get your hopes up). Sounds fun? Only 75% of the time because those types of people can sometimes be pretty damn rude and ungrateful, but that’s their problem. Not mine. I just have to keep a smile plastered to my face and help them to the best of my ability and not focus on their new Prada purse or Rolex watch or whatever the case may be.

I don’t work as a massage therapist by the way. Long story short- it’s not for me. Maybe one day, but not right now.

I’ll tell you about that some other time.

So there ya have it. I’ve been stressed lately because of car issues and job issues and as always, money issues, but I believe eventually it’ll work out. It has for me in the end anyways.

Just keep trying and stay focused on the things that really matter in life. You have to enjoy life because this is the only one (if you don’t believe in reincarnation) you get!



When you’re angry…

In Tai Chi class today (I always want to call it Chai Tea- like my favorite Starbucks drink), I learned some very useful tips. And like the teacher said, I will share them with you, not teach them to you. Most of these tips are about anger which is pretty common in my life right now unfortunately. Hopefully this class helps me help myself! And you. If you want…

1. When you get angry, your stance is part of what’s making you mad. Next time you yell at your wife/husband/girlfriend/boyfriend/mom/dad/sister/brother or whoever, take a deep breath and stop yourself. Look down and see if your knees are locked. Are your shoulders up towards your ears? These simple body mechanics can lead to a black out because the blood isn’t getting to your head. And you won’t even know what happened!

2. Start with fixing yourself before you try to fix the people around you. Trust me, it’s way easier. You are your problem, not anyone else. Figure out why you’re angry with whoever and start inside.

3. When you point a finger at someone, remember 3 are pointing back at you. Clever, right? Most of the time we insult, curse, or are just plain mean to people because WE have something going on inside us. In Psychology, they call this projection.

4. When you’re having a fight or I should say argument with someone you love (friend, family member, lover), stop what you’re doing and just apologize. Then say “I love you.” You would be amazed at how much that can do. After that, things will get better.

5. If you think positive, you will stay positive and everyone around you will too. I know how hard it is to be optimistic. When life just keeps throwing lemons at you, it’s tough not to throw them back. It’s NOT impossible though.

Well hopefully over the weekend you can try out one or all of these. Or wait…that would entail that you need to get angry. Just try these out next time you find yourself in an angry tizzy.

Happy weekend.