Today there’s something that has been on my mind lately that I know many girls
of all ages have suffered without for years; self-esteem. In the dictionary, you
will notice that the definition of self-esteem is “a confidence and satisfaction
in oneself: self respect”. I had to look it up because I had forgotten what it meant, which is
Confidence can consist of many things. Beauty, brains, power, and control are only a few.
I’ve noticed in this day and age younger girls are looking way older. Starting
off as early as 12 or 13 wearing makeup and dressing like their older sisters or
mothers. Back when I was a kid, I played dress up, but still loved being a kid.
Getting dirty and not caring how my hair looked was a daily ritual for me.
Why do so many girls start off so young lacking this major part in their
personalities? Is it our society constantly portraying that thin is beautiful?
Or is it the embarrassment or humiliation one might feel if they are labeled
uncool for being too smart or not smart enough in school?
As each decade passes, society gets even stricter about what its definition of
beauty is. The definition of beauty is in fact “the quality or aggregate of
qualities in a person or thing that gives pleasure to the senses or pleasurably
exalts the mind or spirit”. Everyone has their own definition of beauty of
course, but natural beauty is something women should be proud of. The world of
makeup has put quite a damper on natural beauty. Some women can’t even leave
their homes without some sort of it on. If it makes you feel beautiful go for it,
but is it really who you are?
Back in the day, women were loved for being curvy and voluptuous. Nowadays
that’s changed to skin and bones. The Greeks had it right. Take a look at the
statues of the Greek goddesses. None of them were skinny and perfect yet they were
revered. If you think about it, women are allowed to have curves and actually are
supposed to in order to raise children. Does “child bearing hips” come to mind?
Years ago when I was a fourth grader, I remember becoming obsessed with the
Olsen twins. I thought they were the bees knees. That obsession led to my
constant thoughts of thinking I had to be skinny. I am thankful (and actually
surprised) that I never developed an eating disorder because of these thoughts.
My obsession turned into an idea that has stayed with me to this day. Back then
I focused on the characteristics that skinny girls had such as their hip bones
poking out and I even noticed collar bones. I would spend hours in the mirror
tucked away in my bedroom trying to make my stomach look a certain way or move
my shoulders different ways in order to make my collar bone show. Not only do I
look at myself in the mirror and only sometimes like what I see, but I also don’t love
myself like I should no matter how many good things I do. Many, if not all, of
us have SO much to be thankful for. Things we overlook on a daily basis. Even
knowing those things doesn’t help does it? Maybe one day it will. I’m not saying
every person out there doesn’t count their blessings every day, but you got to
admit…not many probably do.
To me, every girl is beautiful in her own unique way. Big, small, short, tall.
It doesn’t matter. We were all created a different way by the genes of our
parents who love us for who we are. Why can’t we simply give ourselves a break
and do the same? Because it’s impossible. We will probably never be happy with
what we’ve got until it’s taken away from us. The only thing we can do to love
ourselves is to cut us some slack. Everyone makes mistakes and that’s something
we’ve got to understand. So what if you’ve got a pimple in the middle of your
forehead that makeup can’t cover or didn’t ace that test like you thought you would. Those little
imperfections make us who we are and that’s what we should never ever forget.
If perfect people existed do you think you would want to meet one? Think about
Stay tuned for Lauren’s blog on self esteem later on this week!